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Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 08:03:20 MST

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I am the author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited. (number 1 bestseller in its category in Barnes and Noble). The Web site "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" was, for many years, an Open Directory Cool Site and is a Psych-UK recommended Site. I am not a mental health professional though I am certified in psychological counseling techniques by Brainbench. I served as the editor of Mental Health Disorders categories in the Open Directory Project and on Mentalhelp.net. I maintain my own Websites about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and about relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths here and in HealthyPlace. You can read my work on many other Web sites: Mental Health Matters, Mental Health Sanctuary, Mental Health Today, Kathi's Mental Health Review and others. I write a column for Bellaonline on Narcissism and Abusive Relationships and am a frequent contributor to Websites such as Self-growth.com (where I serve as an expert on personality disorders). I served as the author of the Personality Disorders topic, Narcissistic Personality Disorder topic, the Verbal and Emotional Abuse topic, and the Spousal Abuse and Domestic Violence topic, all four on Suite101. I am the moderator of the Narcissistic Abuse Study List , the Toxic Relationships Study List, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Support Group, the Psychopath and Narcissist Support Forum, and other mailing lists with a total of c. 26,000 members. I also publish a bi-weekly Abusive Relationships Newsletter.

Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 08:02:55 MST

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The Narcissistic Personality Disorder and abusive relationships with narcissists and psychopaths described and analyzed. 82 frequently asked questions (FAQs), excerpts from the archives of the Narcissism Revisited List, essay, journal entries and appendices.

The Victims of the Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 08:02:08 MST

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Sooner, or later, everyone around the narcissist is bound to become his victim. People are sucked – voluntarily or involuntarily – into the turbulence that constitutes his life, into the black hole that is his personality, into the whirlwind, which makes up his interpersonal relationships.

The Narcissist and His Spouse

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 08:00:26 MST

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On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who typically "binds" with a narcissist. They come in all shapes and sizes.

The Persecuted Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:57:37 MST

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Paranoid ideation - the narcissist's deep-rooted conviction that he is being persecuted by his inferiors, detractors, or powerful ill-wishers - serves two psychodynamic purposes. It upholds the narcissist's grandiosity and it fends off intimacy.

The Narcissist Grows Old -

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:55:42 MST

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The narcissist ages without mercy and without grace. His withered body and his overwrought mind betray him all at once.

The Narcissist in Love

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:54:42 MST

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Narcissists "love" their spouses or other significant others – as long as they continue to reliably provide them with Narcissistic Supply (in one word, with attention).

The Losses of the Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:52:53 MST

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The narcissist - often abruptly - loses all interest. It is as though, having acquired them, the narcissist takes his sources for granted.

The Narcissistic Leader

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:51:54 MST

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The narcissistic leader is the culmination and reification of his period, culture, and civilization. He is likely to rise to prominence in narcissistic societies.

The Narcissist's Mind

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:49:32 MST

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Narcissists are said to be in love with themselves. But this is a fallacy.

Narcissistic Supply

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:48:27 MST

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The Primary Narcissistic Supply is attention, in both its public forms (fame, notoriety, infamy, celebrity) and its private, interpersonal, forms (adoration, adulation, applause, fear, repulsion).

The Narcissistic Personality

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:45:57 MST

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Pathological narcissism is a life-long pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition.

The Gullible Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:43:10 MST

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The irony is that narcissists, who consider themselves worldly, discerning, knowledgeable, shrewd, erudite, and astute - are actually more gullible than the average person.

The False Self

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:41:33 MST

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Narcissists have two personalities, two selves: the "true" one which they reserve for their nearest and dearest and the "fake" or "false" or "concocted" one which they flaunt in public.

The Sad Dreams of the Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:39:31 MST

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People often mistake depression for emotion. They say: "But you are sad" and they mean: "But you are human", "But you have emotions". And this is wrong.

The Dependence of the Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:36:41 MST

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Codependents are needy, demanding, and submissive. They suffer from abandonment anxiety and, to avoid being overwhelmed by it, they cling to others and act immaturely.

The Narcissist and His World

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:33:31 MST

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The narcissist is an actor in a monodrama, yet he is forced to remain behind the scenes.

Narcissists and Death

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:29:38 MST

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I study death as one would an especially curious insect, part metal, part decomposing flesh. I am detached and cold as I contemplate my own demise.

The Narcissist in Therapy

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:27:10 MST

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Adult pathological narcissism is no more "curable" than the entirety of one's personality is disposable.

The Inverted Narcissist

samvaknin — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 07:24:55 MST

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To "qualify" as an inverted narcissist, you must CRAVE to be in a relationship with a narcissist, regardless of any abuse inflicted on you by him/her. You must ACTIVELY seek relationships with narcissists and ONLY with narcissists.